The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life is a truly inspiring book that touches on fascinating and often unsaid truths. It’s is a well-worded reminder that life is shit and we have to discover the shit things that aren’t as totally shit as the other shit things so that the shitty parts of life aren’t as shitty as they could be. It makes more sense in the book, I promise.
When every other self-help book injects you with despicable, feel-good highs that last as long as your nose remains buried in the book and serves no practical purpose out in the mud and filth of your daily life, Mark’s book pulls you out of misconception and rebuttal, points at the pit you’re stuck in and pushes you to not only look at the filth and dirt covering you but also to accept it. Manson writes well with occasional clunkiness but nothing gets in the way of a good read. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a book, full of counterintuitive recommendations that often make great sense, is a pleasure to read and worthy of rereading.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck – in Three Sentences
Finding something significant and profound in your life is the most beneficial use of your time and energy. This is true since every life has problems associated with it and discovering meaning in your life will help you withstand the effort needed to overcome the particular problems you face. Thus, we can say that the key to living a pleasant life is not giving a F*ck about more things, but fairly, giving a F*ck only about the things that align with your personal values.
Indeed, the ability to preserve our F*cks for only the most F*ck-worthy of circumstances would assuredly make life a hell of a lot simpler. Failure would be less frightening. Rejection less distressing. And Unpleasant necessities more pleasant. I mean, if we could only give fewer F*cks or a few more determinedly-directed F*cks, then life would feel quite F*cking easy.
Resilience, Happiness, and Freedom come from identifying what to care about–and most significantly, what not to care about. This is a masterful, truth-seeking and practical book that will give readers the insight to be able to do just that. Before this title is baffled into a heap along with the other billion self-development books out there, let me say that it’s a bit distinct. It’s not an enchanted guide to living life better or cures you of anything, and Manson is careful to tell you that upfront. But it could help turn some of your life’s troubles into better ones.
The irony is the book actually is about greatness. It is aspiring. There’s greatness to be discovered in accepting our lack of greatness, our modesty, and magnificence amidst the complex and ugly. And in accepting our problems along with the dirt, filth, and grime that essentially go along with life and humanity, we come to live the good life we forever desired for.
Some of the quotes from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck that I really loved:
“The desire for more positive experience is in itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”
“Improvement in anything is based on thousands of tiny failures, and the magnitude of your success is based on how many times you’ve failed at something. If someone is better than you at something, then it’s likely because she has failed at it more than you have. If someone is worse than you, it’s likely because he hasn’t been through all of the painful learning experiences you have.”
“The only way to be comfortable with death is to understand and see yourself as something bigger than yourself; to choose values that stretch beyond serving yourself, that are simple and immediate and controllable and tolerant of the chaotic world around you. This is the basic root of all happiness.”
“You are great. Already. Whether you realize it or not. Whether anybody else realizes it or not. And it’s not because you launched an iPhone app, or finished school a year early, or bought yourself a sweet-ass boat. These things do not define greatness.”
“You are already great because, in the face of endless confusion and certain death, you continue to choose what to give a F*ck about and what not to. This mere fact, this simple optioning for your own values in life, already makes you beautiful, already makes you successful, and already makes you loved. Even if you don’t realize it. Even if you’re sleeping in a gutter and starving.”
“You too are going to die, and that’s because you too were fortunate enough to have lived. You may not feel this. But go stand on a cliff sometime, and maybe you will.”
“Living the good life isn’t about giving no F*cks – it’s about learning to give a F*ck only about the things that actually matter.”
Some of big takeaways and ideas that the book talks about is:
- Don’t try to achieve happiness by escaping the negative aspects of your life, but rather by embracing them.
- Choose to give a F*ck only about the things that are truly important.
- Discover happiness through the process of consistently solving your problems.
- Stop thinking that you are special.
- Fill your life with good problems based on good values rather than bad problems based on bad values.
- Take responsibility for everything that happens in your life.
- Acknowledge that you are often wrong and that learning is just the process of becoming “less wrong.”
- Accept that failure and pain are inherent components of an active life.
- Learn how and when to say no.
- Accept the fact that you are going to die.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck – Why you should read it?
This book gives practical and brutally honest advice in the self-help sea of useless feel-good bullshit. The book is entertaining. The descriptions are intense and the book is fluent. This book will alter your perspective in so many areas of your life and your personal growth. You will be astonished how you didn’t read this book before. The combinations of expressive and hilarious languish and ground-breaking content leaves the reader astounded. And as such, this is the perfect book to give to your loved ones on holidays, birthdays…
If you are serious about wanting to change your life, the “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life” book is for you. If you enjoy the brash commentary, wittiness, and immensely thought-provoking conversation, you’ll love this book. Only read if you’re willing to set aside all excuses and take an active role in living a F*cking better life. I’ll leave you with a quote from the book that may be the perfect example:
I’ll leave you with a quote from the book that may be the perfect example:
“To not give a F*ck is to stare down life’s most terrifying and difficult challenges and still take action. While not giving a F*ck may seem simple on the surface, it’s a whole new bag of burritos under the hood. I don’t even know what that sentence means, but I don’t give a F*ck. A bag of burritos sounds awesome, so let’s just go with it.”
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Table Of Contents/ List Of Topics Covered in this book:
Chapter 1: Don’t Try
– The Feedback Loop from Hell
– The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
– So Mark, What the F*ck Is the Point of This Book Anyway?
Chapter 2: Happiness Is a Problem
– The Misadventures of Disappointment Panda
– Happiness Comes from Solving Problems
– Emotions Are Overrated
– Choose Your Struggle
Chapter 3: You Are Not Special
– Things Fall Apart
– The Tyranny of Exceptionalism
– B-b-b-but, If I’m Not Going to Be Special or Extraordinary, What’s the Point?
Chapter 4: The Value of Suffering
– The Self-Awareness Onion
– Rock Star Problems
– Shitty Values
– Defining Good and Bad Values
Chapter 5: You Are Always Choosing
– The Choice
– The Responsibility/Fault Fallacy
– Responding to Tragedy
– Genetics and the Hand We’re Dealt
– Victimhood Chic
– There Is No “How”
Chapter 6: You’re Wrong About Everything
– (But So Am I)
– Architects of Our Own Beliefs
– Be Careful What You Believe
– The Dangers of Pure Certainty
– Manson’s Law of Avoidance
– Kill Yourself
– How to Be a Little Less Certain of Yourself
Chapter 7: Failure Is the Way Forward
– The Failure/Success Paradox
– Pain Is Part of the Process
– The “Do Something” Principle
Chapter 8: The Importance of Saying No
– Rejection Makes Your Life Better
– How to Build Trust
– Freedom Through Commitment
Chapter 9: . . . And Then You Die
– Something Beyond Our Selves
– The Sunny Side of Death